I'm Just Say'n

Lite relationship advice for truckers

July 19, 2009

Breaking up is hard to do

Dear Carolyn,

Is there a good way to break up with someone? I don’t want to be “that guy” who sends a text or just stops calling. But then again, I’m tired of the long pointless conversations where we go over and over all the ways our relationship is not working. I always end up promising to try harder. The truth is; I don’t want to try at all anymore. But I’m a good guy and before we went down this road, we were very close friends. Is it even possible to go back to close friend status after a break-up?
Billy

Dear Billy,
This is a multiple part question so I’ll answer in the order you wrote. Here goes:
No. You won’t. I’m with ya. Well then. Nope.
I could give you a long explanation about each answer but it boils down to this: Break-ups are like removing band-aids. You can slowly, painfully peel the edges, inching along until it’s done, or rip it off. I should tell you to do it in a mature, calm, loving way, sparing her feelings and easing into the bad news. But, truthfully?
Let it rip.
And then, let her heal with privacy and dignity.
Just Say’n

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  1. Jim says:

    Great analogy, Carolyn. And I agree with four out of the five responses you gave. Your "nope" is possible in my opinion if both sincerely want to recapture their friendship and are willing to put forth the (agreed-major)effort. I've maintained great friendships with every girlfriend I've ever had since high school – six of them (I'm old) and it has definitely been worth all the work.

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