November 1, 2011

Buyer’s remorse

Dear Carolyn,

My wife has changed since we got married. When we were dating she was funny, kind and a blast to hang out with. Now, all she does is complain about how I don’t do what she wants me to do. I feel like I got the bad end of the stick in this deal. We got married after only two months of dating and everyone loves to tell me they told me so.

What do you think?

Jerry

Dear Jerry,

I’ve worn my daily disposable contacts longer than two months!  Anyone can try on a different personality for a few months. That’s why, if you had asked me before you got married, I would have told you to wait a bit.

Which doesn’t help you now. What I suggest is that you give it some time. She’s probably dealing with the same buyer’s  remorse you are. Talk about your mutual expectations. Give it a shot. There may be something worth saving. If not, you will have to just cut your losses.

I’m just say’n,

Carolyn